Title: Murder in the Name of Honor: the true story of one woman's heroic fight against an unbelievable crime (This is the second book that I've read for the Women Unbound challenge and it's for my "moms" book group)
Author: Rana Husseini
Genre: Non-Fiction (Middle East, women, honor killings)Pages: 221 (plus notes and index)
Rating: 5 out of 5
Summary: (from the inside flap) Chewing gum, laughing at a joke in the street, wearing make-up or a short skirt, choosing a boyfriend or husband, or being raped by a brother. All have been cited as 'honorable' motives for murder
Rana Husseini's hard-hitting and controversial examination of honor crimes is a fearless, groundbreaking account of a topic that can no longer be ignored. Claiming the lives of 5,000 women every year, the practice is common in many traditional societies around the world, as well as in migrant communities in Europe and the USA--where the incidents are becoming increasingly frequent. These so-called 'honor killings' are usually carried out by a relative as an act of purification to restore the family's honor.
Breaking through the conspiracy of silence, Rana Husseini gives voice to the thousands of women who have lost their lives, whose murderers often receive encouragement, admiration, and mitigated sentences. In this book, she describes her battle to change outdated laws and expose those countries that still, even today, legally allow killers who claim to have struck in the name of honor walk free.
Review: Where do I even begin to put my thoughts about the issue of 'honor killings' into words? Let me start first with the book itself. It is well-written and I liked that Husseini combined personal stories of the victims and their families amongst the legal and political struggle that she is so much a part of. Though Husseini is from Jordan and much of the book is devoted to stories and the issue within her own country, I am really glad that she devoted a chapter to 'honor killings' in other countries. While she mostly covers immigrant populations in the Middle East, she also has sections on the UK, the US, and Central/South America. It is truly an uphill battle for human (women's) rights groups who choose this as their cause.
I am going to put my thoughts about this book in bulleted format since that will more easily allow me to get it all out before my head explodes. And, at this point, I'd like to say how excited I am that I am now blogging on a personal book blog since some of this stuff I won't post on my school's library blog!
- Initially I was frustrated that this was another book about how badly women are treated in the Middle East. My ex-husband is Arab and I find that I get defensive when people only see the Arab nations as oppressive to women. Especially now, in the anti-muslim environment that we are living in, I find so many Americans/Westerners have awful stereotypes about the Middle East. It is an area of the world that most westerners have not traveled to, which makes it all that more 'foreign'. I have traveled to the Middle East (Oman and UAE) a few times and find the people warm, welcoming, friendly, interested and interesting. The people I know there are educated, caring, and much more worldly than most Americans; they have been educated and have lived throughout the world. Their families are not oppressive to women and in fact they are proud of how successful their female relatives are.
- My second set of thoughts were to realize that I had to get over myself and relax. Unfortunately, abuse and in-family murder exist in all societies. We've heard so much recently about Catholic priests, Fundamentalist groups in Utah, and other horrific stories of family members who hurt each other in the name of 'love'. It's why we have a foster care system and family court.
- Once I had all that out of my system, I could really get into the book and all the details. What amazed me is that the men who commit these 'honor killings' turn themselves in to the police almost immediately. In addition, they get almost no jail time since they committed the crime "in a fury". Rana Husseini and others are working tirelessly to change laws in their countries so that "fury" isn't an excuse for murder. But, how do we fight against centuries of tradition and that concept of "honor"?! Even the victim's sisters and mothers condone their killings. When women don't even have each other, who is going to look out for us?